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We received a wonderful letter that we’d like to share with The Lifeboard Community. We hope it will inspire you as it did us! xo, The Lifeboard Team

 
Dear Sue, Linda, and Eva:

I just wanted to write you to tell you formally how much I appreciate the creative and wonderful things I have been able to accomplish with The Lifeboard, for myself, and others.

I have gifted the Lifeboard to several friends and family members and recommended it to women in my networking groups, however, the greatest impact I have had is using The Lifeboard in my creative writing workshops for Kindergarten through 5th grade at my daughter’s school.

I needed the quiet and thought the kids would do well to have some of their stress lifted; and be told what they can do instead of what they can’t do. Well, the kids have made huge breaks through in their thinking, their esteem, and their interest in their own ideas. I am so proud to have been the one who got to tell each of these children that they are absolutely PERFECT and that they need not believe anyone who tells them otherwise. I got to tell them they have a choice in what they believe about themselves, and I got to witness the laughter, smiles, and visions of these little souls, just beginning to see their own lights.

Thank you for the tool of The Lifeboard so that I could create a bridge for possibility for over 100 children who have been told to be quiet and stop doing this or that way too many times. It was great to give permission to enjoy, celebrate, experience, grow.

So many kids could see themselves grown and happy and bigger and safer as a result of the visualization and meditation DVD. It has been a gift for me that I thoroughly enjoy sharing with others.

-Penina

 

The power of positivity.

Being a true leader even in tough times.

Positive-Thinking

In the face of adversity, we make choices. We decide how and to what extent we will involve ourselves in tackling conflicts. There are organizational conflicts and personnel conflicts. Even personal ones. We can’t control how others will act. We can only control how we will respond to crises, changes, and situations.

There is nothing more disheartening than encountering “professionals” that let negativity dictate their interactions with family, colleagues, and clients. We are not immune to the fact that the demands placed on professionals are limitless. Leaders find themselves equally as burdened by mandates, changing directives, disgruntled co-workers, employees, finicky clients, and the daily grind in life. Those of us that enjoy our work tend to thrive on these challenges; we enjoy brainstorming solutions and problem solving in order to improve and learn from experiences we confront.

Enter the power of positivity. As leaders, we cannot expect others to exude positivity without demonstrating this quality through our leadership. While some focus on maintaining daily tasks and remaining status quo (or are frankly just in survival mode), others are interested in taking living to the next level. What formerly was good enough just isn’t good enough anymore. This is referred to as positive deviancy, going beyond the norm in a positive direction, which will cause organizations to flourish, not just exist.

Focusing on the positives in these four domains:  climate, meaning, communication, and relationships, will enable leaders to take the next step in supporting a flourishing organization. What is at the heart of all of these domains? People. We’re truly in the people business. No matter where we go to work and what organization we work for, for most of us we have this one common thread, interacting with people.

Its easier to creative a positive culture in an organization experiencing success. The difficulties lie in times of adversity. When budgets are cut. When the pressure is on to perform. When home lives aren’t ideal. When there is conflict among staff. When the executive team isn’t supportive. When there aren’t enough resources.

We talk of reform and of change. So many are dedicated to improving, yet each day we encounter others in our communities who continue to resist and thus dampen our efforts. We cannot stand for this negativity. We cannot tolerate excuses.

Instead, we must lead positively and support our friends and colleagues along the way. What are some ways you’ve remained positive in your leadership efforts? How do you promote positivity in your organization? We’ve found these simple strategies to be successful through research:

  • Smile. Smile at people when you greet them. Smile when they say something amazing. Smile when they say something that exasperates you. If you give the impression that you are frustrated, upset, worried, etc., the people with whom you’re interacting will know it.
  • Keep a folder called “The Good.” Some have two. One in a desk drawer – where you file the thank you cards, children’s artwork, friendship letters, notes from staff…and the other is in your Inbox where you store much of the same. At those times when you need to say to yourself, “How can I keep up with the demands of this? Why do I do this?” Turn to the folders. And read. Smile. And remember very clearly why you do this.
  • Don’t act unless it’s in the best interest of serving people. Don’t speak it, say it, do it, unless it benefits people. Don’t waste energy on things that don’t. Being negative takes more energy than it’s worth. Did you know that?
  • Address the negative. Just like teachers use planned ignoring rather skillfully in their classrooms with students, there are some instances of negativity within an organization that are best ignored. Others are not. When the negativity seeps into the everyday actions of teachers, thus impacting life for students, it is no longer okay. Work with people. Help them see how their negative influences are detrimental to learning and are holding back the organization from greater success.
  • Celebrate. Celebrate everything, particularly the small successes. Help everyone in your organization see the value in what they do. Create a culture where it’s okay to brag. Share! Don’t limit your celebrations to within your work walls- be sure everyone in your community knows how excited you are about your work!

“If you will call your troubles experiences, and remember that every experience develops some latent force within you, you will grow vigorous and happy, however adverse your circumstances may seem to be.” -John Heywood

 

(Thank you to “The Principal’s Posts” for your insightful advice that we adapted here.)

Winners and Losers

 

You will only become a winner by doing what winners do. Losers do what losers do. They never seem to change. Nobody goes overnight from loser to winner. It’s not like suddenly winning the lottery. Winning in life is a growth experience.

Remember, by the inch it’s a cinch, by the yard it’s hard.

For you to be a consistent winner in life, the negatives must be removed. If any of the negative habits and attitudes of a loser persist in your life, isn’t now a good time to identify them and begin to work on improving? All you have to do is tackle the most difficult habit or task each day and work on it.

Do the difficult first and all else will be easy. 

What is the most difficult task you have before you today? Do it now—don’t wait! If you truly want to be a winner in life, you must act today. Remember, “today is the tomorrow you hoped for yesterday.” Now is the only time any action can take place. If you don’t begin now, you will never begin. Success on any level of being occurs through the hourglass effect—little by little, grain by grain, the habits of winning accumulate. Soon, your life will be filled with fulfillment and richness.

I wish you the very best in developing a winning personality. So, act now on the realization of your fondest dreams and hopes. Act today the way you’d feel having them already within your grasp. They are already there once you begin to act on them. Act today—do not delay. You’ll be forever glad you did!

Bless you in the sweet richness of life, -Peter Ragnar


Winners listen
Winners act
Winners compliment
Winners see opportunity
Winners are industrious
Winners pay bills
Winners honor their word
Winners are on time
Winners are open to criticism
Winners communicate
Winners are open
Winners say thank you
Winners are generous
Winners are interested in others
Winners talk about ideas
Winners are open
Winners are candid
Winners honor their word
Winners exercise
Winners create beauty
Winners feed birds
Winners plant trees
Winners love nature
Winners love land
Winners understand
Winners feel remorse
Winners show empathy
Winners stay home
Winners seek re-creation
Winners save
Winners invest
Winners question
Winners are flexible
Winners are joyful
Winners are forgiving
Winners are warm
Winners are smart
Winners are curious
Winners are courageous
Winners let others shine
Winners promote others
Winners praise their competition
Winners love success in others
Winners clean up after themselves
Winners stay late
Winners grow flowers
Winners smile
Winners laugh
Winners read
Winners go to bed early
Winners make breakfast
Winners give permission
Winners work with others
Winners inspire
Winners encourage
Winners motivate
Winners rest
Winners love life
Winners self start
Winners kiss their wives
Winners bring flowers
Winners share income
Winners think ahead
Winners are conscious
Winners compliment
Winners leave tips on the table
Winners wave you on in traffic
Winners live in the moment
Winners say thank you
Winners hate bigots
Winners share
Winners trust
Winners seek to understand
Winners are honest
Winners accept differences
Winners serve
Winners endure
Winners bless
Winners find solutions
Winners seek to be peaceful
Winners seek fulfillment
Winners are careful
Winners follow through
Winners are blessed
Winners win

Losers talk
Losers procrastinate
Losers criticize
Losers see risk
Losers are lazy
Losers don’t
Losers find excuses
Losers are always late
Losers are ready to attack
Losers don’t
Losers are closed
Losers say nothing
Losers are cheap
Losers are interested in themselves
Losers talk about others
Losers are closed
Losers are evasive
Losers lie
Losers make excuses
Losers pollute
Losers shoot them
Losers cut them
Losers exploit nature
Losers pave land
Losers feel anger
Losers feel nothing
Losers are callous
Losers get out of town
Losers seek vacations
Losers spend
Losers gamble
Losers accept
Losers are stubborn
Losers are mad
Losers are vengeful
Losers are cold
Losers are stupid
Losers are dull
Losers are fearful
Losers steal the spotlight
Losers promote themselves
Losers praise themselves
Losers resent others’ success
Losers wait for others to do it
Losers leave early
Losers cut flowers
Losers frown
Losers snicker
Losers watch TV
Losers go to bed late
Losers buy breakfast
Losers ask permission
Losers work against others
Losers depress
Losers discourage
Losers find escape
Losers rust
Losers seek the hereafter
Losers need to be cranked
Losers sit their ass
Losers bring complaints
Losers hoard income
Losers fall behind
Losers are unconscious
Losers curse
Losers steal tips from the table
Losers cut you off in traffic
Losers live in the past
Losers say no problem
Losers are bigots
Losers don’t
Losers are suspicious
Losers seek to preach
Losers are dishonest
Losers are intolerant
Losers wait to be served
Losers agonize
Losers fume
Losers fuss
Losers seek to be right
Losers seek fun
Losers are careless
Losers stall
Losers are cursed
Losers lose

 

Patience does not come easy for me. In fact, I believe it is one of the main lessons I am meant to learn in this life. Sometimes I remind myself of an exuberant puppy that simply can’t contain itself when the dog biscuits come out.

When I was a little girl I couldn’t wait to be 12. That was how old my cousin was when I was 3 and she was everything I wanted to be. It seemed like it took forever and then when I finally got there it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be and I couldn’t wait to be 18 and then 21 and then…WHAT HAPPENED??? Suddenly, I was 30 and then dreading 40 and… I have spent a lot of time impatiently waiting for or fearing something that I barely got to experience when it finally happened! Thank God it’s not too late to stop and smell the roses AND the garbage right now.

I don’t want to go to bed early and sleep late. I am done with thinking about the past and the future and missing the now. I want to savor and experience my life, the good and the bad, with grace and dignity in spite of living in this age of instant gratification.

So, I am patiently creating my Lifeboard to help me create the life of my dreams. Rather than daydreaming or obsessing on what I want or don’t want, I am using my Lifeboard to free myself from my own limited thinking. The process is helping me to slow down and take time to contemplate and cultivate the seeds I am planting. And, even though I want it all now, I know that a beautiful garden takes time, care and, yes, patience, before we get to see what grows. And like a garden, my life is growing, unfolding and in constant change with my feet firmly planted in today.

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The Lifeboard Video for College Students!

Sue Shifrin-Cassidy and Linda Blum Huntington, co-authors of The Lifeboard: Follow Your Vision, Realize Your Dreams, together at the LA Lifeboard Workshop!

Lifeboard Workshop at Chronicle Books, San Francisco, CA

LA Lifeboard Workshop

 

 

 

 

 

Thank You for an absolute blast at our latest Lifeboard Workshops in Los Angeles and San Francisco in May!

 

 

 

 


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With summer plans fast approaching, it may be a perfect time to look back into your past and think about all the positive people that have affected your life. People you share great, heart-warming memories with, friends that have made a difference to you and the kind of person you have grown to be because, in part, how you connected.

The next step is to pick up the telephone, try a search on the internet, attend a school reunion and attempt to try and rekindle an old friendship. Let others know you still care! You are putting out positivity into the Universe and that same positivity will return to you in kind. It’s amazing how time does not change anything between two old friend’s relationship no matter how many years have passed!

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